In the previous post on welfare and motherhood, Karen I. writes:

I thought of a few more things the poor children of single moms get, including free lunch and often breakfast at school, free coats from the local newspaper charity, free filled backpacks from my church at the start of school, free rides to and from doctors appointments if they need them with the state insurance, fee waivers to attend summer camp free or cheap at the YMCA and free transportation to and from that camp. Add that to what I already listed and try to convince some single young tramp with a baby on the way she ought to marry her baby’s Daddy and get a job. Morals are not going to convince her because she does not have any or she would not be in that situation to begin with. She has no education to use at a job, so that argument is out the window, too. So, she has to choose between working at a low paying, miserable job and sitting home “poor” with all the State is just dying to hand her the minute the baby arrives. No wonder 40% of births are to single mothers these days. 

I used to be the first to give to the food pantry, the backpack drive, etc. After seeing who really benefits from these things, I don’t do that anymore. Now, if I want to give something, I hand it right to someone I know who can use it. I have given loads of brand name kid’s clothes to a mom whose husband had his work hours cut back. She appreciates it and I know it is going to someone who really deserves it. I think that everyone who wants to give to charity should do the same. Find someone who really deserves the help and help them yourself. Leave a bag of food, Christmas gifts or warm clothes on their doorstep if you think they will be embarrassed. You don’t need an agency to find needy folks for you. They are everywhere if you just open your eyes and look for them. Often it is the ones who are too proud to seek welfare that need the help the most.

Laura writes:

And yet Oprah makes us weep for single moms.

Karen’s advice for charitable giving is excellent. Not only does it assure the right person is getting your help, it’s more personal. 

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