Chore Wars
March 19, 2010
NATASSIA WRITES:
I came across this article at Fox News, and I found it to be interesting because I remember when I was trying to be “Super-Mom” (and giving myself an anxiety disorder in the process), I felt a twinge of incompetence when my husband was “too helpful” with the babies (a toddler and an infant.) When he loaded the dishwasher (even before we had children), I felt like I wasn’t doing my job, despite the fact that I was in school full-time (or working or both.) I tried to tell myself I was being stupid and unrealistic about my abilities (and I was), but that still didn’t stop the gut-feelings that I had.
Talk about turning oneself into a neurotic.
Laura writes:
Most women don’t want their husbands to do 50 percent of the housework. The idea that they do is a lie.
Women may need their husbands to do 50 percent or more because they themselves are too busy. But they typically don’t consider it ideal. An equal division of labor makes them guilty or it makes them mad because their husbands don’t meet their standards. This mystifies the helpful husband. The more he helps, the angrier or unhappier she gets. In this situation, the chore wars are unending.
