WELMAR writes at The Spearhead:

Both men and women do terrible things to each other. They betray, abandon, neglect and abuse. Honestly, I don’t think either sex beats the other when it comes to treating spouses like garbage. However, when men do something horrible, they are usually contrite. Often, they take the blame. In fact, in many cases men will take the blame even when they weren’t at fault. 

However, with women it is an entirely different story. I have only once in my life heard anything approaching regret from a woman for hurting her husband. This woman, who had destroyed a marriage to a decent man by having affairs, only said, many years after the fact: “don’t get married too young; I regret the mistakes I made because I was too immature.” I liked her much better for it, but still this wasn’t a real mea culpa.

A reader sent me an article about a woman who left her husband after he came home from Afghanistan with severe wounds, including the loss of two limbs. It should be shocking, but it isn’t.

I know a woman who left three husbands. Her words about her shocking series of betrayals were nonchalant. “I like being married,” she said. “I’m just not very good at it.”

Michael S. writes:

“Do women say they’re sorry?”

This is a rhetorical question, right?

John P. writes:

No, they don’t. In all my years I have been apologized to only once despite being on the receiving end of enormous calumny and vitriol. Like Lear, I am “more sinned against than sinning.

Laura writes:

I might just give it a whirl. : – )

Lisa writes:

Men’s and women’s temperaments have always struck me as generally “dog-like” and “cat-like,” respectively. Dogs are known to be loyal, not holding grudges, quickly forgetting misuses in the light of a few kind words and caresses, and acting sad and apologetic when they are scolded, whether they committed an actual offense or not.

Women can be “catty,” capricious, petty, independent, and not inclined to reconcile after some offense, imagine or actual.

Maybe that’s an oversimplification or too much of a generalization. Even so, my cats and dogs enjoy sleeping together and being around each other…

Rita writes:

Well perhaps I’m from another planet but I’ve apologized many, many times in my 44 years. My women friends do too. Maybe it’s because we’re Christians. I can’t believe I’m hearing this!

Laura writes:

Yes, of course. The original piece was about women not apologizing after divorce and this struck me as true. It always seems to have been entirely the husband’s fault.

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