A reader writes:

I teach at a state university, so I am exposed to hundreds of students each year, and each year, I note with dismay the number of young women who as a matter of course display themselves as cheap, easy sexual conquests. Although I try to serve as an example of femininity and modesty they can respect (and based on feedback I receive, I know at least some of them notice), it is very clear that this generation is saturated in the idea that “hooking up” is normal and acceptable. Case in point, please see the attached file–it is a flier that was posted everywhere in the building where I teach. I tore one off the wall, but I couldn’t tear them all off (and if I could, I would probably be reprimanded for violating someone’s free speech). Please note the number of tabs (with contact information) missing. Yet none of these young women recognize that although young men are happy to use them sexually, they still prefer less experienced girls for marriage. Of course, if they did recognize it they would howl about how unfair it is, as if their ideas about “fair” have anything to do with anything.

Laura writes:

Thank you, Mary Wollstonecraft! Thank you, Virginia Woolf! Women of today pursue higher learning passionately.

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Karen I. writes:

Immodest behavior (to put it politely) is certainly not limited to college women. It is everywhere in our culture and it is encouraged at all ages, from girls in grade school to women in their 50s and older. Immodesty is marketed as “confidence” and girls or women who dare to bare all are supposedly confident, whereas women who are modest are seen as frumpy, and lacking confidence. Sadly, women pressure one another to adhere to the immodest standards. I prefer to dress modestly, and I can’t believe the number of women who have made comments. Not men, women. On the rare occasions I have worn jeans, a few women have even told me they prefer to see me in jeans! I am not dressing for other women! Men don’t comment on my clothes, though they do seem to give me the occasional glance of what I suspect is approval. Deep down, immodest women must feel less than comfortable in their attire if they become so defensive in the company of a modestly dressed woman they feel compelled to comment on her clothing. I guess immodest attire only gives a woman confidence if no one is around to remind her in any way that she is dressed like a tramp.

Rita writes:

I think the Roissy in DC blog should be required reading for these women. If they can handle a “passion party,” they’re not too innocent for Roissy. I think it would really open their eyes as to how little they are valued when they act like unpaid prostitutes.

Laura writes:

That is an excellent suggestion.

James P. writes:

Karen I. writes:

Immodest behavior (to put it politely) is certainly not limited to college women. It is everywhere in our culture and it is encouraged at all ages, from girls in grade school to women in their 50s and older. Immodesty is marketed as “confidence” and girls or women who dare to bare all are supposedly confident, whereas women who are modest are seen as frumpy, and lacking confidence.

In point of fact, these days it takes a lot of confidence to be modest — not least because immodesty is mendaciously marketed as a sign of confidence! Only a truly strong person can resist the pressures of a depraved popular culture and the countless people in thrall to its pernicious influence.

You may have seen this story about a college girl who is having second thoughts about the campus hookup culture, though it appears she has not rejected premarital sex entirely, she just wants to slow the tempo somewhat. Also interesting is that she does not present her objections to hooking up in terms of morality, only in terms of its effect on her “happiness”. She still believes “if it feels good, do it” is the proper code of behavior, and she’s changing her behavior not because it’s wrong, but only because she’s not feeling good.

Laura writes:

Outside of small Christian colleges, there seems to be no momentum on the part of parents to end coed dorms and to enforce stricter rules on college campuses.

Kimberly writes:

From the article linked by James P.:

“On Facebook.com, several groups are rooting for the traditional dates. The motto on the group Bring Dating Back reads, “This group is for all those girls who wish that once in a while a guy would take her out on a date before trying to get her into bed. At least invite us to dinner before expecting us to get down and dirty!” 

How can women ever expect men to take them seriously when they sound this stupid? Obviously, these women see that fornication leaves them “down and dirty.” Yet they expect men to believe that all they want in exchange is a dinner paid for and some small talk while they eat! 

On another note, I want to confirm that it takes a lot more confidence to dress modestly than immodestly. When I used to dress immodestly, I only felt embarrassed around the elderly and religous, but I didn’t encounter them all that often, so it didn’t really bother me. Now that I dress modestly and lady-like, even when I look absolutely adorable, I feel like my friends think I’m a little wierd for it. I know they admire it, they know it’s a noble thing to do. But they wouldn’t do it themselves.

I love dressing with “modest femininity”, so I don’t care if I’m the only one I know who does it! I bought a special hat, when I first started dressing this way, and when I wear it, I know I’m breaking ground! Someone is going to copy me, somewhere, someday! I just hope they don’t add cleavage to my look. If they did, it would spoil the whole effect, so maybe they won’t. The hat is 20’s style. It’s black, with a big round top and a rim that skirts around just over my green eyes. There is a satin ribbon that goes along the top of the rim, and gathers on the side with a scrunched circle of fabric, like the top of a first prize ribbon. When I look up at people from under it, I always want to laugh when I look back down. Their faces! They are so amazed! Both men and women! And of course I wear this with my nicest, modest skirts and pretty shirts. I try to keep good posture, and I wear garnet lip gloss, at least. I also make it a point to dress my kids well, so we all look good together.

It almost seems sinful, I enjoy it so much. But I think God wants me to be confident, and to show everyone that I love being a woman, a wife and a mother, so much that I even look like I love it! I’m drenched with it!

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