The Expendable Father, and the Loathsome Aniston
August 14, 2010
READER N. writes:
The discussion of unmarried women and their children has been interesting. But in the real world, yet another powerful woman, Jennifer Aniston, has yet again declared fathers to be totally unnecessary. I’ve heard this notion for so many years, that I no longer notice it, so when this interview was given I just ignored it, until someone brought it to my attention. You may or may not find it useful.
Excerpt:
“”Women are realizing it more and more knowing that they don’t have to settle with a man just to have that child,” Aniston, 41, said. “Times have changed and that is also what is amazing is that we do have so many options these days, as opposed to our parents’ days when you can’t have children because you have waited too long.”
Referring to her new movie The Switch, about a woman who becomes pregnant by inseminating herself with a turkey baster. Aniston says:
“The point of the movie is what is it that defines family? It isn’t necessarily the traditional mother, father, two children and a dog named Spot,” she said. “Love is love and family is what is around you and who is in your immediate sphere. That is what I love about this movie. It is saying it is not the traditional sort of stereotype of what we have been taught as a society of what family is.”
Laura writes:
Family is “what is around you” and “love is love.” It is this tired stereotype of the anti-family that “we have been taught as a society.”
Aniston is the epitome of the aggressive, self-infatuated, yoga-posing, turkey-basting Hollywood diva. I happened to read of her new home in California in a recent issue of Architectural Digest. I was struck by the sterile ugliness of the place. It looked like an oversized Buddhist temple with modernist furniture and wet bars. It was that familiar combination of Eastern mysticism and 21st century extravagance. Aniston has no husband or children and converted the Beverly Hills mansion into a place suitable to the life of a single woman, which apparently involves a lot of exercise, meditation and entertaining.
“[The house] originally had his-and-hers baths, but Aniston has turned the ‘his’ into a spa bath with a soaking tub,” according to the article. Aniston said the house “is like a big hug.”
Reader N. adds:
This is interesting. I consider Bill O’Reilly to be more of an opinionated entertainer than a newsman or much of a thinker, but he seems to be quite aware of the direction of public
opinion.
So perhaps it is significant that he’s the only public figure so far who criticized Jennifer Aniston for her “fathers are disposable, just get a turkey baster” movie, and here he does so in strong terms. No one else has said anything like this, so far as a web search can tell me; Aniston’s recent appearance on the Jay Leno show was apparently the usual lightweight love-in.
Ironically, I found this in a UK paper, The Daily Mail, not a U.S. one:
But O’Reilly, renowned for his conservative views begged to differ on his show and said: ‘She’s throwing a message out to 12-year-olds and 13-year-olds that hey, you don’t need a guy, you don’t need a dad.”
‘That’s destructive to our society.’
O’Reilly acknowledges that there are bad dads out there. ‘And any man who leaves their children is not a man,’ he says.
But he says Aniston is being unfair to the good fathers.
“‘Aniston can hire a battery of people to help her, but she cannot hire a dad, OK? And Dads bring a psychology to children that is, in this society, I believe, under-emphasized. I think men get hosed all day long in the parental arena.'”