OLIVIA  ELIOT writes:

I’m e-mailing to thank you wholeheartedly for the work you do on your blog. I’m a 21-year-old student, attending one of the more liberal universities in Ontario, and I’m surrounded daily by feminists, pro-abortionists, radical homosexuals, and anarchists, all supported by the university. It settles my mind, and keeps me sane, to come home after a long day, and read your blog.

I study physics because it fascinates me, but my plan, God willing, is to become a wife, and homeschooling mother of several children. Since starting to read your blog this year, I feel much more able to enter into debates and discussions with people who think that my plans are silly, and I do so with very little fear.

Your posts – and the ensuing discussions – about sexuality have been extremely helpful as well. This is an issue that is especially pertinent on a university campus. I felt compelled to compose this letter to my student newspaper recently, in reaction to some really alarming events I had seen advertised:

I’d like to talk about sex. Do I have your attention now?

Last week, I was startled to see posters advertising “Kink Night” on campus. This workshop was apparently an introduction to the BDSM (bondage/sado-masochism) community, and was put on by NAKED, a subdivision of The Wellness Centre (run by Student Health Services). Really? Does anyone else see the almost comic absurdity of Student HEALTH Services hosting a workshop on how to hurt other people and get off on it?

And yet, somehow, I’m not surprised. I lived in a first-year residence; the Residence Assistants were handing out condoms alongside candy; I know that the Wellness Centre offers an in-residence sex toy workshop. It’s one thing to have programs that educate students about STIs and safe sex, but to actively promote this vision of sex as a fun, light-hearted thing one that would equate with the innocence of candy, is extremely misguided.

The University staff – whether the people at Wellness Services, or the RAs in residence – are in a position to influence their students. We are at an extremely important point in our lives, exploring our independence, taking on more responsibilities, and realizing what it means to be an adult. Instead of blindly flinging condoms at us, and trivializing sex by emphasizing that it’s ‘fun’, why can’t they try something else? Why not emphasize the responsibility that comes with sex, to respect the inherent dignity of every human being, and to recognize that you need to respect yourself as well? It might take a load off Counseling Services if someone told these young women that they have value beyond what they realize; that they deserve more than to sleep with the first drunk guy who shows interest. Maybe they could tell these boys-aspiring-to-be-men, too, that they cannot achieve a healthy relationship when they’re viewing women purely as objects of desire.

But, really, what are they telling us? Through these workshops, and the ever-so-cute condoms/candy mix, they’re effectively saying, “Sex is recreation; it’s fun, it’s not really anything serious. So go hook up and have some fun, as often as you like!” And that’s not quite the truth. In fact, sex is so much more. It is entirely debased when it is turned into recreation; we do an injustice to ourselves and to each other when we treat it as such.

The vigourous campaign to help students ‘discover their sexuality’, instead of encouraging healthy sexual relationships, seems to be producing even more rampant, shallow, hedonistic ‘hook-ups’. If we’re each paying $6,000 per year primarily to ‘learn about our sexuality’, then why not learn something with substance? Instead of teaching students how to make sex ‘fun’, how to engage in shameless promiscuity ‘safely’, and how to explore sado-masochism, why not teach us that each human being is worthy of respect? Why not teach us that we have inherent dignity, and that sex, as a bonding, intimate act, does have an emotional impact? Instead, the university chooses to support and encourage damaging, self-destructive behaviour, without warning its students of the long-term emotional and psychological effects.

When our generation is crippled with depression, low self-esteem, addictions, and an inability to form loving, lasting relationships, we will look back at the people who directed us during this critical time, and we will feel betrayed and disappointed. University is where we learn how to be adults. To an extent, this is something we teach ourselves, but the influence of the authority figures around us is undeniable. Do you think they’re doing a good job?

Thank you again for the mental stimulation, resources, information, and thoughts that you provide. You help to sustain my hope in the world. I want to take more steps on campus – beyond sending a letter – to change the state of things here if I can; I will continue to read your blog as I consider my options, for inspiration and ideas.

I have contributed to your site over Paypal, and will continue to do so on a regular basis – I can’t imagine not having the blog to read at the end of the day.

Laura writes:

Thank you for taking the time to write and for your generous donation.

It is gratifying to have attracted such an intelligent and fearless woman as a reader. Everything you say in your letter to the student newspaper is true. The Student Health Services, with its promotion of sadomasochistic sex, should be shut down for abusing its powers. It is sad when young adults starting to make their way in the world, students living on the threshold of adult responsibility with all the fears and insecurities such a position entails, must ask for basic dignity from adults. I think you pose an excellent question to students: Do you think they’re doing a good job?

The grown-ups are not grown up at all.

Thank you again for your support.

John P. writes:

This case illustrates the constantly evolving standards of liberalism. When I was in college BDSM was considered absolutely pure evil by feminists. But now, because it’s not an uncommon practice in the homosexual community, it’s accepted.

“We have always been at war with East Asia. We have never been allied with Eurasia…”

Laura writes:

Good point. This is beyond sick. It is an Orwellian nightmare.

Brittany writes:

At my college they only have a safe room for homosexual students. In other words, if the homosexual feels depressed they can talk about whatever they need to talk about. Other than that there is not really a promotion of homosexuality. As far as the bondage sex why is that necessary? You don’t even need to be a Christian or a conservative to see that our society focuses on sex way too much.

Mabel LeBeau writes:

My educated guess is that the college the young lady attends is privately funded. [Laura writes:Most universities in Canada are publicly funded.] I thank the Good Lord above every day that I’ve benefited from attendance at public state colleges; a well-rounded education over the last 35 years. Most recently a graduate degree in 2004 at an Ivy League state university at that, though not a Catholic university, it does have the largest Catholic student body in the state despite a fine reputation of other more expensive private Catholic colleges. I find no similarity between my college experience and that of the young woman’s at all. And, this is the mid-eastern cornfields of the US; wheat, soybeans, and pigs, and wind farms and all.

I feel bad about the cynicism and hopelessness expressed in the nature of a campaign the contributor describes at her school in Ontario, Canada. And, it’s good thing the young woman is seeking alternative views to what she sees daily in her school life, through forums such as this. 

This sort of dehumanizing silliness is not appreciated in my campus town. Our alumni have circled the moon, set foot on it, and brought back a certain measure of national pride to the US as astronauts, Nobel laureates, scientists, statesmen, plain ol’ tax-payers, as well as international collaborators. We cherish our foreign students and the contributions they will make to our world as result of their experiences in these mid-eastern cornfields.

Art from Texas writes:

Although the public college I am attending here in South Texas, Del Mar College, is not far left, it nevertheless leans in a left wing direction. I myself have seen professors of government class come out and openly criticize the Republican party, and my first professor, although an excellent teacher, and very non-partisan, nevertheless felt that the second amendment was too controversial to discuss in any great detail. The literature program openly accepts feminism and feels no shame in promoting it, alongside the many other theories that have entered the academy. Although some public universities may not have drifted in this direction, it does seem to be a pretty strong tendency at all levels of government-run education.

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