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LAWRENCE B. writes from Australia:

A couple of years ago, I attended an informal reunion of my small  group of friends from university. There was a group of us in those days — about 30 years ago — four boys and four girls who had socialized daily during the law course. The girls were the very best and most attractive our country had to offer. Therein lies the tragedy.

As late as the 70’s and ‘80’s, before our tertiary educaton system was opened up, only about 30 percent of Australians went to school beyond the age of 16 and of that cohort only a tiny fraction gained entry to our few universities which was determined solely by a single public exam. These four girls stood out on campus as bright and very physically  attractive. Feminism hadn’t turned toxic yet so they were also pleasant and feminine.  Of course they were determined to succeed in their legal careers so they planned to stay single for a few years.

We’d all lost touch so I was disappointed to turn up at the reunion a bit late. I spotted what I thought from afar were my suited male friends who’d let themselves go – only to discover they were the girls in Hillary-esque pantsuits. The men, it turned out, were still looking OK. Less hair on all of us but still at least recognizably male.

Was it you who wrote that the tragedy of feminist women is not that they look like little old men from the back – but that they now look like little old men from the front too? So true. So sad. The real tragedy was that none of these exceptional women had married or had children. They’d passed the intervening decades having “relationships” with more senior men when in their 20s and 30s (most of whom were married at the time). They all had cats and dogs to whom they were extremely devoted and to which one referred, in an apparent attempt at a joke, as her “fur babies.”

I think the saddest thing was that they were all smart enough to know what they’d missed. One accomplished lady lawyer, then about 50, smiled at one point during the afternoon and seriously exclaimed about children: “Oh well, there’s still time.”

I don’t know how things stand in the U.S. but a few years ago when a 50-year-old lady in the region where I live conceived a child naturally and bore it to term it was front page news across the country and secured her a spot on Australian “60 Minutes.”

The one that I was closest too emailed me afterwards with, I think, an eye to picking up where we had left off 30 years before.

But life doesn’t work the same way for both sexes. We’re just not interchangeable. The truth is that even though we’re the same age she is now too old for me. I wine and dine women 20 years younger than me because I can. Despite the best efforts of the feminists, the reality is that now and for always a little boy and little girl born today will be viewed in different ways from the start. Different actions, attitudes, qualities and achievements will be expected of each. They will be judged differently by all around them and they will in turn judge each other and themselves differently. The problem is that no one will admit it.

Those girls I once knew – and we boys, too, who stood back from these amazing young women because we did not wish to be selfish by stopping them from their glittering careers – were sold a huge lie to our own and society’s great cost. These ladies had and have big jobs now but don’t strike me as fulfilled. Quite the contrary. I think they’ve stopped pretending to themselves. Fools can delude themselves forever – it goes with the territory – but intelligent people eventually wake up, no?

In a strange coincidence, I happened to recently watch a BBC documentary on Germaine Greer called “Germaine Bloody Greer.” Greer once came to speak at our Uni when I was there. She was 40-ish at the time and was incredibly vital, dynamic and charismatic. A real whirlwind. And mad. The girls were understandably completely smitten by her and swallowed her message that they were just the same as us and must aspire to walk the very same path.

Greer is shown in the documentary as she now is these days  wandering around the grounds of her rural estate completely alone, still brash and rude and frankly unhinged – her only meaningful or loving relationship  being with her flock of geese, (“feather babies”?). I was so disgusted at such a wasted life that I deleted the file. Not as a protest but because watching the end result of Greer’s feminist life-path was just too pathetic and depressing to ever want to revisit.

Instead of trooping off to listen to Germaine that day, we would have all been better off watching this fellow who imparts more wisdom in 60 seconds than any feminist ever has:

— Comments —

Pan Dora writes:

Sounds like Lawrence B. has some issues of his own …… he doesn’t speak of his wife or children. Merely that he can wine and dine women 20 years younger than him. Is this his definition of a successful life?

Laura writes:

He is not married either.

Lawrence B. responds:

Pan Dora, your premise in attacking me — and, by implication, other unmarried men in their 50s — is not based in reality. No, I’m not married and several of my friends aren’t also. That gift was not given to us. But guess what:

1.We can still father children should we wish, whilst our female contemporaries cannot . A 50+ woman can kid herself all she wants, but the truth is what it is. I was not kidding when I referred to Australian 60 Minutes granting a 50 year old mother her own segment.The father didn’t get much air-play in all this. Pan Dora would probably assume he must had “issues” over the relative neglect – but I doubt it.

2. Work and career outside the home is far more important to the average man’s personal fulfillment and self-image, as well as to his standing in society, than it is to the average woman. Always will be. Yes, there are outliers but they are just that – outliers – and such women are therefore unrepresentative of women as a whole.  You raise a false equivalency by insulting me.

3. If we unmarried men ever wondered at what it would be like to have married and had children, (as we sometimes assuredly do – a great deal less frequently than our female peers, I can assure you), we certainly aren’t led to purchase replacements in the form of dogs and cats and to make them our “fur babies”. If a man ever did behave in that way he’d be disrespected not just by men but by women also. Men look to men of action and worldly accomplishment and content ourselves that while a Godly, happy marriage may be the best of all possible worlds – far better to remain happily single than to live in the worst of all possible states, an unhappy marriage to a modern feminist shrew.

4. Men of my age who make a real effort to look after themselves by engaging in manly sports and other activities get regular offers – and yes, from much younger women. All men, unlike feminists, have been raised to understand that it is not enough for us in life simply to be opinionated and arrogant to be of worth but that we must strive to improve ourselves, achieve and work to earn the attraction of the opposite sex. We are taught and observe from early on that personal respect and access to women is not granted automatically to men but must be worked for and hard-won. In the case of my group of close male friends this means lifting weights 5 days a week for the last 20 years, learning to box and wrestle and taking courses, both professional and personal, to make ourselves interesting to others. This is what, I assure you, it apparently means to be an allegedly “privileged” white male in the west.

Ever wondered why, even in today’s toxic Hollywood, movies don’t show older women as romantically linked to younger men – and that in the very few cases where they do, such as in Harold and Maude, (1971), it is as a gimmick or fetish and for its cringe-inducing shock value; yet Sean Connery, Richard Geer, et al., are still credible as leading men and romantic interests well into their 60’s and even beyond? That’s not going to change any time soon – so get used to it, Pan Dora!

Men and women are just not the same. Never will be. No amount of wishful thinking will make them so, either. Vive la difference!

Laura writes:

The point of Lawrence B.’s comments was not that all women should be married. The women he described, however, apparently did not want celibacy. Therefore they should have married long ago.

His original comments were charitable and filled with good will. A callous man would not see or lament the disappointment of those women.

Anon writes:

“Despite the best efforts of the feminists, the reality is that now and for always a little boy and little girl born today will be viewed in different ways from the start. Different actions, attitudes, qualities and achievements will be expected of each. They will be judged differently by all around them and they will in turn judge each other and themselves differently. The problem is that no one will admit it.”

Isn’t that reality what feminists want to change, at any cost?

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