A SOCIETY that normalizes homosexuality is a cruel society.
Imagine a society that celebrated alcoholism and encouraged alcoholics to embrace their addiction. Imagine the covering over of the resulting disasters with platitudes of love. Then magnify that a hundredfold. For the affliction of the artificially-created homosexual is far worse, alienated as he is from the most basic roles and bonds of society.
The heartless modern world consigns him or her to an unhappy state — without exception. The more homosexuality is normalized, the more homosexuals convert their inner conflict into “pride.” The person who identifies as a homosexual will always be in deep conflict, and the acute awareness of this causes pain that no homosexual “community” can assuage.
But there is hope.
In the introduction to Dutch psychologist Gerard van den Aardweg’s 1985 book on this subject, Homosexuality and Hope: A Psychologist Talks about Treatment and Change, Paul Vitz writes:
Homosexuals are not condemned to a way of life that alienates, separates, and restricts a person greatly. Once we see and understand homosexuality as something like these other psychological problems from which one can recover, our perception changes in two ways. The homosexual is given hope for change and, at the same time, there is a kind of acceptance of the homosexual as part of normal, human society and, like the rest of us, subject to pathology. This is particularly true when we see homosexuality as a condition from which one can recover and in the process, God willing, become a stronger person for having successfully met the challenge. This needs to be emphasized.
Van den Aardweg, who wrote a later version of this book called The Battle for Normality, published his insights decades before there was “gay marriage” and he obviously did not fully anticipate how little his warnings and those of others would be heeded. Though this book is somewhat dated in this sense, its basic observations and insights remain true and often profound.
There is no such thing as an innate homosexual, van den Aardweg argues.
The knowledge we have at our disposal indicates that homosexually inclined persons are born with the same physical and psychological equipment as anyone else. It is no proof of an innately “different” nature, for example, that a certain percentage of men with homosexual feelings impress one as unmanly, even effeminate, in their behavior and interests. This is an effect of upbringing or of a learned view of themselves, a learned self-image. The “mannish” woman with lesbian feelings is not that way by natural disposition, but by habit and a specific inferiority complex. There are, on the other hand, distinctly “womanly,” “feminine” lesbians whom few people would suspect of these feelings at first glance.
In societies where sex roles and the differentiation between boys and girls are strong, there is almost no incidence of homosexual behavior. The homosexual condition is caused by confusion and a blurring of these roles. Feminism and the endless propaganda to make men and women the same has inevitably led to a plague of confusion. It is no wonder that many people are caught in a trap of unnatural desires. Read More »