PAN DORA writes:

I read with interest your response regarding nursing in America. I note you left out discussion of a significant part of the nursing fields, namely the staffing of long-term care facilities. If you believe introducing more men into these institutions is either possible or desirable, I’d suggest you actually try working in one for awhile. Read More »

FORTY-EIGHT percent of the medical degrees awarded in 2010 went to women. Having been encouraged to believe they can – and should – do everything, many of these women hope to work part-time or flexible hours and have families. This unprecedented number of women doctors portends serious declines in patient care. Writing in The New York Times this weekend, a female doctor has the courage to state the obvious:  Women should not become doctors unless they are willing to make the same sacrifices as men. Karen. S. Sibert, an anesthesiologist, writes:

I have great respect for stay-at-home parents, and I think it’s fine if journalists or chefs or lawyers choose to work part time or quit their jobs altogether. But it’s different for doctors. Someone needs to take care of the patients.

The Association of American Medical Colleges estimates that, 15 years from now, with the ranks of insured patients expanding, we will face a shortage of up to 150,000 doctors. As many doctors near retirement and aging baby boomers need more and more medical care, the shortage gets worse each year. Read More »

A Knitted Car Cozy by Magda Sayeg and her group, Knitta Please

THIS PAST Saturday was the first International Yarn Bombing Day. Knitters from around the world covered cars, lamp posts, stairway rails and public statues with colorful knitted cozies. Yarn bombing has a  feminist edge (Why knit baby booties anymore?). But it’s a great idea – just for the humor of it – when executed well. Talented yarn bombers have created whimsical, interesting works, especially those by the knit artist Magda Sayeg. Here’s a recent article  about the phenomenon in The New York Times.

THE U.S. Department of Education, as part of the Obama administration’s active outreach to homosexual teens, held its first ever Federal LGBT Youth Summit earlier this week. The event in Washington on Monday and Tuesday was closed to reporters. Health and Human Services Secretary Kathleen Sebelius told the students, “It’s great to see such a big crowd for this important event.”  Read More »

FROM the blog Victorian/Edwardian paintings comes this photograph of children in hand-knitted sweaters. Notice the pleasure on the faces in the background. Read More »

PATRICK HOLDEN writes:

Here’s an article from The Daily Beast in which the author argues that marriage should be redefined to incorporate infidelity. What I don’t understand is how one could incorporate adultery into a marriage and still consider it a marriage. What exactly would couples commit to? Why get married at all? I find troubling the idea that because infidelity happens, we should just accept it. Read More »

KENDRA writes:

I am writing to add to the ongoing discussion of the traditional vs. two-income family.

Never mentioned is the cost that families incur in order to live in a safe place away from the destruction of poor blacks. I live in an old gentrifying black neighborhood. My husband works, and I am a homemaker and homeschool our children. Read More »

THE small back-to-farming movement in parts of America is a sign of health and vitality. But, we also need a back-to-factory movement, a desire among many ordinary people to see more goods made and sold in this country. Factories are beautiful, as inspiring in their own way as farms. I am reminded of these words by the 18th century British painter Joshua Reynolds about the causes of the French Revolution. The French, he said, had given themselves to ornament,

to the splendor of the foliage, to the neglect of the stirring the earth about the roots. They cultivated only those arts which could add splendor to the nation, to the neglect of those which supported it – They neglected Trade & substantial Manufacture…but does it follow that a total revolution is necessary that because we have given ourselves up too much to the ornaments of life, we will now have none at all.

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THE previous entry quoted Canadian author Susie Moloney as saying that housewives typically “concealed a core of brutality toward their families.” I thought of that early this morning as I was marketing. I saw a number of women shopping with their young children, buying strawberries and fish. They seemed nice.  I guess the core of brutality was cleverly disguised.

Moloney said:

The cruelty was directed outside and they were evil because, ultimately, I think all housewives are evil,” she says. “I do think that in order to get the ultimate stay-at-home mom’s life — be slim and attractive, have beautiful kids, a successful husband and a beautiful home — you need witchcraft, especially the thin part. [emphasis added]

In response, reader Joe Long writes: 

Many years ago, the great science fiction and fantasy writer Fritz Leiber wrote a quite funny supernatural novel called Conjure, Wife. (I believe someone made it into a bad movie at some point.) Told from the point of view of a faculty member at a university, the premise was that the faculty wives were all witches (unbeknownst to their husbands), and that faculty politics was actually largely driven by their voodoo. Eventually Lieber reveals that the whole world actually works that way; all of the men supposedly in authority are just enjoying delusions of grandeur, as housewives casting spells make the world go ’round. Read More »

HOUSEWIVES sometimes believe if they are nice and very self-deprecating, the world will approve of them. But even if they are as sweet as candy, they will find some consider them infantile or “desperate” or even outright evil.

An interview with Canadian author Susie Moloney appeared in today’s Winnipeg Free Press. Moloney, who is unknown to me, appears to be an author of shlocky supernatural thrillers. She expresses her views about homemakers in her latest shlocky supernatural thriller. Read More »

YOUNGFOGEY writes:

Obviously, a reader’s comments contending that Rep. Weiner should not be scrutinized for his private behavior are absurd. Still, they have caused me to wonder about the widespread reaction to these events.

Why, I wonder, are we responding to his behavior with so much interest and outrage when tweeting sexual pictures to young women is perfectly in line with the philosophy of life we all know liberals hold? Had Rep. Weiner refused to apologize but simply come out publicly and said that sending pictures of his member to pretty girls makes him feel fulfilled and that no one should judge him for he sexual choices, he would at least have maintained a bit of philosophical coherence. When he apologized (if that is what he did) he lost even the bit of integrity seeking such philosophical coherence would have afforded him. Read More »

KATHRYN GALLANT writes:

I just read this article in the New York Times on the pregnancy of Huma Abedin, the wife of Congressman Anthony Weiner.

Poor child! When he or she is born (God willing), the child will have a lot to deal with. Read More »

CHRISTINE writes from Germany:

There is something on my mind which I wanted to write you for a long time.

Following one of your articles about Emmie, the woman who sought advice in The New York Times when considering an abortion, a woman wrote to you about her mother who had had her son aborted by a doctor before she was married. The woman wrote that her mother regretted that for her whole life and never went to Communion because of it. You wrote that you could not understand her, because if she had confessed it she could have gone to Communion. Read More »

Still Life with Bowl, Giovanna Garzoni

MARGUERITE LOUISE D ′ORLÉANS, the 17th century Grand Duchess of Tuscany, was a difficult spouse. Her husband, the Grand Duke Cosimo III de ‘Medici, was so frustrated by her behavior that he eventually had her banished to a convent in France. While at the convent, she had affairs and gambled at the court at Versailles. She also tried to burn the convent down, an act said to have greatly irritated her husband.

I bring up the Grand Duchess for no reason other than to relay the following story of marital conflict. Most stories of marital conflict are interesting, but this one is particularly so. Whether it has any lessons for us who live in a highly scientific and egalitarian age – a time generally devoid of palace cooks and princesses and convents that accept banished wives – I prefer not to say. The anecdote comes verbatim from the wonderful 1905 book Florentine Palaces and Their Stories by Janet Ross. Read More »

HUMA ABEDIN is the 34-year-old wife of Congressman Anthony Weiner. They were married last year and have no children. She is an aide to Hillary Clinton and is described as a workaholic. He is a Jew and she is a Muslim. 

Weiner’s actions were reprehensible. He should resign. At the same time, a wife who travels around the world in pursuit of her own fortunes has no right to expect that her husband will be there when she returns. Was this a marriage or a merger?

According to ABC,

Officials tell ABC’s Claire Shipman Abedin will be on a plane bound for Africa with Hillary Clinton Wednesday evening. They say she’s been working non-stop since the scandal broke, and “hasn’t missed a beat.” They also say “she is committed to her marriage,” and that “they love each other.”

The feminist works non-stop even when her marriage is in crisis. Her strength is awesome. Here we see what feminism is really about: the avoidance of pain and intimacy.

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SEE Jesse Powell’s comments in the previous entry in response to a reader’s contention that feminism supports traditional mothers and wives. He writes:

Why would a man treat as a duty the financial support of the household if from the woman’s point of view being a homemaker is merely a “choice?” If women view homemaking as a mere “choice” then men likewise will be inclined to see their wife’s homemaking as optional and be unmotivated to financially support it, denying the woman the “choice” to be a homemaker at all since being a full-time homemaker by definition requires the husband’s support in order to make it practical.

Claiming women have the right to “choose” whether they be homemakers or not implies that men have a “duty” to support the woman in whatever she “chooses” to do; there is a problem with this formulation. Read More »

ROBIN writes, in response to this post:

Eleanor writes: “[F]eminists are not against women staying at home and raising children. Part of the feminist movement is the tenet that we need to place more value on what used to be called “women’s work” like cooking, cleaning, raising children. The feminist movement is about giving women options, so that women who are interested in being housewives can be housewives.”

Feminists whom I know would have everyone believe that this is truth; they are very concerned about “empowering” women and creating “value” for women, all the while ensuring that women have the ever-popular choice to become whatever they want to be. Read More »