The Forced Freedom of Feminism
October 25, 2010
IT’S SEVERAL weeks old, but this New York Times interview with Gloria Feldt, former head of Planned Parenthood, is worth reading for its insights into the feminist mind, particularly for its stunning admission that feminists consider housewives to be traitors. Simone de Beauvoir claimed it was wrong to be a housewife. Feldt agrees. She says this of unemployed women:
They make it harder for the rest of us to remedy the inequities that remain. We have to make young women aware of how their choices affect other women. It should be acceptable criticism to point out that, although everyone has the right to make their own life decisions, choosing to “opt out” reinforces stereotypes about women’s priorities that we’ve been working for decades to shatter, so just cut it out. And, the “individual choice” women have to become stay-at-home moms becomes precarious when they try to return to the workplace and find their earning power and options reduced. If we could see child-rearing as a necessary task and not an identity, and if we could collectively recognize that facilitating it benefits us all, we would go much further in guaranteeing women’s choices than we do when we are expected to uncritically celebrate every individual’s decisions[emphasis mine]
When feminists say that they only want freedom of choice for women, they are either lying or inadvertently stating a falsehood. The society that does not explicitly support and celebrate the unpaid mother and wife is waging a battle against her.
Feldt also candidly admits that feminism is a war against men. She says, “It’s partly about overcoming social norms that overemphasize niceness, deference and attractiveness to the opposite sex.” She says women create “barriers’ for other women by being polite toward men in business meetings or agreeing to take on the lion’s share of household duties.