Friendships in Heaven

I pray for them, I pray not for the world, but for them whom thou hast given me; because they are thine.
— St. John 17:9
THE subjects of Heaven and Hell are always worth pondering. We can’t think about them too much. We can’t overestimate how much reflection upon them can set us in the right direction, like a compass pointing the way in a storm. Countless problems would be solved if more people spent 15 minutes a day meditating on Heaven and Hell, as they really are.
Sadly, fear, ignorance, prejudice and a lack of God’s grace keep people away.
I recently came across a sermon by an Episcopalian minister in the course of research and in it, she point-blank said to her prosperous congregation gathered beneath an historic, white steeple, “You may have noticed that we don’t talk much about Hell here.” Of course, they noticed it. They probably wouldn’t have been there if she talked about it. Hell is not a successful product in the religious marketplace. The slightest suggestion of it is enough to send a shopper to another retailer down the street. Still, I thought, “That’s sad.” If they don’t talk about Hell, well then, they must not understand a thing about Heaven. I wondered anew at this phenomenon by which the most important and interesting subjects are averted, subjects Jesus Christ placed in the forefront again and again of his sublime and unexpected message.
One aspect of Heaven that people don’t consider enough is the friendships to be found there.
Heaven is a place of love. Not the sentimental, false thing often called love. The moment Adam and Eve fell from grace they institutionalized betrayal. They wounded our capacity for love and brought about this meretricious imposter. No, not that, but love that is true and deep. The closest bonds of earth are a pale foreshadowing of this love. Yes, the happiness of heaven is supremely social. There is no unwanted isolation, no dissension, no conflict, no distrust and no disappointment. No cliqueishness, no gossip, no stabs in the back. No desire for understanding or acceptance is unmet. The social joys to be found there will be, after the general judgment, all-encompassing: intellectual, emotional, physical — on every plane of a glorified being.
Albert H. Dolan, O. Carm., in his little book St. Therese Returns (Carmelite Press, 1932) writes quite profoundly on this issue:
Love, historically, is the strongest human passion, the greatest natural motive power on earth; yet the purest and holiest of earthly loves, yes, the love of all lovers on earth together cannot equal the love of the lowest soul in Heaven. In Heaven we shall love and be loved with a great, indescribable love, of which earthly parental, filial, conjugal, and fraternal loves are only poor imitations, and only represent some portions or elements.
Have you considered how often you take a utopian view in social matters? Have you considered that if you kept this truth of Heaven always in sight, you might bear with the disappointments of this life, realizing they are only a passing phase?









