THE specialization required of men involves sacrifice by its very nature. George Gilder wrote in his 1992 book, Men and Marriage:
Among men the term dilettante is a pejorative. Yet, because the range of human knowledge and experience is so broad, the best that most people can ever achieve, if they respond as a whole person to their lives, is the curiosity, openness, and eclectic knowledge of the dilettante. Most men have to deny themselves this form of individual fulfillment. They have to limit themselves, at great psychological cost, in order to fit the functions of the economic division of labor. Most of them endure their submission to the marketplace chiefly in order to make enough money to suatain a home, to earn a place in the household, to be needed by women.
It is because of the inherent sacrifices and limitations that go with being a man that women have certain natural obligations to men. One, they owe them absolute deference in hiring and education. The best jobs should go to men. All civil regulations and laws that require preference for women are wrong, a violation of the natural contract between the sexes. Men should receive preference in hiring not simply so that they can fulfill their economic obligations. They should receive preference so that they can more easily achieve satisfying work. As many paths as possible should be cleared for men to receive satisfaction in their work because men have no choice but to work.
The other thing women owe men is gratitude and customary deference, expressed in a hundred small ways at home and in the course of everyday life.
