One, Alone
ALAN writes:
I know exactly how Paul A. feels. [“Hardships of the Single Life, cont.”, Sept. 2 ] He is only 50. I am 20 years older and intimately acquainted with the kind of life he describes.
“Everything is far away,” he wrote. And that is true. But I remember a time when it wasn’t true. Cities once consisted of self-sufficient neighborhoods where everything was not far away. Older men and women in St. Louis have written about how, during their childhood years, everything their family needed could be found within walking distance. That was true for us in the 1950s.
Then came a variety of factors to explode that arrangement: Motor vehicles, highways, the development of mass marketing, the invention of the teenager and then the youth subculture, the destruction of neighborhoods, and the surrender of local power and law to distant places, among others. Alan Ehrenhalt discussed many of these factors in his 1995 book The Lost City: Discovering the Forgotten Virtues of Community in the Chicago of the 1950s, which I recommend.
I once knew an older man who lived alone for 50 years. He and his wife had separated and neither ever remarried. In some ways, he told me, it was a terrible way to live, and it could be terribly lonely. He was right. I learned it, too, from long experience. (more…)




