KRIS WRITES:

Jesse’s excellent response here has provided me with the motivation to finally put my personal thoughts and feelings into a reply. I believe my husband and I are prime examples of the destructive pattern he describes.

My husband grew up in a “Christian” home, in so much as the family attended church on a regular basis. His mother was involved in the music ministry, taught Sunday School; his father was a deacon, elder, and committee member. His parents were (are) well-respected in their church and community. Although his mother and father held mostly to traditional role models in the home, his father worked very long hours and spent very little time with his children. His mother did all of the child-rearing herself, which often left her tired, angry, and bitter. (more…)

A READER WRITES:

I’ve been going through much thinking about myself and my role in my marriage. I truly believe that I am meant to be the best housewife and homemaker for my family through being submissive, as it describes in the Bible. I already consider myself a bit controlling (not mean though), but unmasking my ultra-feminine self and doing everything to make my husband and home happy and memorable is what I feel is my life’s purpose. (more…)

TWO stories in this week’s news illustrate the vanity of the contemporary mother. Single mothers are preying on younger men in front of their daughters. And celebrity fitness trainer Jillian Michaels says she will be opting for adoption (at the advanced age of 36) because of pregnancy’s effects on her figure. Adoption has become, in some cases, an elevated form of shopping.

Selfish, materialistic, consumed by image, and so sugary it makes your teeth hurt: that’s motherhood today.

Many women reject these low standards but that does not alter the fact of their constant glorification in our culture.

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IN THE ENTRY on the politically besieged homemaker, I and others dicussed the burden of volunteer activities many homemakers face.

Sarah S. writes:

Something that I would point out, too, is that all that volunteer work used to be done by the “church ladies,” women whose children were grown and who now had time to teach Sunday School, deliver meals to the sick, lead reading groups at the library, etc. But in our times, even women who stay home with their kids go back to work as soon as their children enter school and then spend their most energetic years making money. And then, when they retire, they move to Florida or Arizona to play golf or they pursue second careers, sometimes because they need to, but more often because they want to. (more…)

JOHN WRITES:

Thank you for your excellent piece on “The Distracted Society.” You did a great service by providing such an informative and enlightening synopsis of the thought of Josef Pieper. 

I think the key is the line you quoted: “Worship is the fountainhead of leisure.” Those who have made our society into what it is today have a purpose to all the busyness that keeps us continually occupied. It is to make certain that we never have a chance to remember that we have a soul. “Leisure” and all it entails such as quiet, peace and rest are essential for interior recollection. For the same reason these things are frightening and painful to those who do not want to be reminded that they have a soul. The reality of our soul, its past history, its current state, its eternal destiny, these are things that cannot be contemplated while we are being bombarded with external stimuli.  (more…)

IN OCTOBER,  I briefly wrote about the Metropolitan Opera’s new production of Giacomo Puccini’s Tosca by Swiss director Luc Bondy, who succeeded in desecrating this lush tragedy with pornographic gestures and swipes at Christianity. If you recall, Bartlett Sher, director of another Met production, subsequently called the act of booing, which had been freely engaged in by fans at the Tosca opening, “a self-interested expression of ownership.” Bondy sniffed, “I didn’t know that Tosca was like the Bible in New York.”

For those interested in a more thorough examination of the production with similar criticisms, I recommend Daniel B. Gallagher’s piece in the Catholic magazine, New Oxford Review. (It costs $1.50 to read in its entirety.)

And, in today’s issue of The Brussels Journal, Thomas F. Bertonneau, a commenter at TH, examines recent productions of Hector Berlioz’ Les Troyens, an epic based on Virgil’s Aeneid. Berlioz’ heroic themes are also transformed by postmodern nullity. Bertonneau looks at a production by conductor Sylvain Cambreling and scene-designer Herbert Wernicke in which the Trojan soldiers are dressed in what appear to be Nazi uniforms. Bertonneau writes: (more…)

SANDRA WRITES:

I have been following your blog from the very beginning and I like it very much. You come across as a very intelligent, well-educated person. There is a question I’d like to ask you, concerning your thoughts on traditional family as you are one of the few voices on the Internet defending housewives. 

It seems that housewives nowadays are attacked both from left and right. Feminist attack on housewives is nothing new, of course, but during the recent years there emerged a new generation of bloggers who claim to be antifeminist, but attack the traditional homemaker quite viciously nonetheless. 

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RECENT FERTILITY statistics show something that has been widely noted for years: Women with lower educational and income levels are much more likely to have children out of wedlock and to enter into a life of single motherhood. They are also much more likely to get divorced. Fifty years ago, college-educated women were slightly less likely to be married than their less educated counterparts, and the majority of women at all education levels exhibited the maturity to enter into and maintain marriages early in adulthood. The difference today in marriage rates among the classes is often known as the “Marriage Gap,” a subject which author Kay Hymowitz and others have explored. (more…)

James H. writes about the previous post on blue collar men:

It’s not the smoking, the Brylcreem, the vodka or whisky – it’s the attitude. It’s being comfortable in your skin. It’s understanding where center is. It’s being your own man and not giving a damn about political correctness, progress, sending the kids to the right schools, keeping up with the Joneses, going to the “best” restaurants, having the most expensive toys or making the most money. It’s all about getting the job done and living within one’s means. Marrying a good woman and staying married. It’s about finding enjoyment in the simplest things. It’s about being easily pleased. It’s about being grateful. It’s about raising good kids – not the smartest or best athletes, but good. It’s about finding as much to appreciate within 50 miles as most can find within 5,000 miles. It’s about accepting responsibility and towing the line. It’s about duty. It’s about treasuring tradition, ritual, custom and convention. It’s about family and friends. It’s about not pursuing happiness or perfection in oneself, others or society. It’s about doing the best you can.

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  THOMAS F. BERTONNEAU WRITES: Regarding the “Michael Jackson Cult," the religious impulse is constitutive of human nature and never goes away, but the same impulse has a context or it does not. In our contemporary situation, relentlessly secular and hostile to tradition, not least to religious tradition, the religious impulse simply has no context. It remains “unschooled.” The human tendency to seek transcendent reference, to orient itself hierarchically, therefore operates haphazardly. Anything conspicuous strikes the naïve or “neo-primitive” seeker as – let us say – the equivalent of transcendence. Because the grotesque is always conspicuous, grotesqueries become the focus of wayward religiosity. It is not only the late (and by me unlamented) Mr. Jackson, it is the entirety of entertainment culture, which combines the bizarrely reductive with exaggerated sexuality and narcissistic egomania. The essence of all primitive gods is being, expressed as power or as charisma – which attracts attention and provokes the desire to imitate the divine model. Entertainers, by monopolizing public attention, appear to embody being; so they become models, icons, idols, and foci of a primitive type of worship.  The “Michael Jackson Cult” tell us that we have descended culturally into a new primitive phase. Primitive cultures endure many agonies – and we are likely to endure many agonies, until we achieve maturity again.

MARKUS WRITES:

I remember this type of man among my dad’s friends when I was little kid back in the late 70’s. As some of the commenters on the article mention, these men are still around, but up country in small towns, and Vancouver has moved away from being so dependent on forestry, mining and fishing. These are blue collar men through and through, an IT/white collar environment doesn’t need them any more, so they’ve retired to their small acreage out of town to live out the rest of their days.

 As the author of the article is a journalism instructor, he probably never was in that blue collar milieu, although he appreciates those guys for what they are. All in all a great article, reminds me of some men at church when I was little, no BS, straight up men. 

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 HANNON WRITES:

You may have caught a recent PBS program on frogs, called “Frogs: The Thin Green Line.” It looks at the alarming decreases in frog populations around the world. I’ve heard about this strange malady for years and it was an informative experience. What struck me as eerie was that the pitch was for science discovering and solving the problems, and of course our magnanimous role in conserving these wonderful animals in an act that itself is a part of evolution — this was stated explicitly by one of the scientists.

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SAGE McLAUGHLIN WRITES:

This link  about a New Age Michael Jackson mystery cult is not a parody, and while some people might find it funny- and really, I know why they would-  it strikes me as extremely sad.  

The author encourages readers to believe that “truth is a feeling” and that Michael Jackson is/was some sort of demi-god or spiritual avatar. Imagine the spiritual barrenness and desperation of the person who derives comfort from that. Consider the spiritual blight afflicting the society that produces such delusion.

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KIMBERLY WRITES:

I’ve been wanting to tell you about something that happened to me recently. It might not surprise you. It didn’t surprise me!

My 18-month-old boy is a sweet, smart little guy. But every now and then, he throws huge temper tantrums. It’s always when he’s told, No, he can’t have something, or No, he can’t go in there. If it happens when I am certain that he’s not tired and not hungry, then I can’t find any reason to allow it. He’s just trying to assert his will, and I’m not going to be a parent complaining about my “strong-willed child.” I think “strong-willed” means “proud fool.” (more…)