[Warning: This post includes some explicit material of a sexual nature and should not be read while children or teenagers are in the room.]
A READER sent me the comment below a long while ago and I thought it justified pornography use so I put it aside. Still the male commenter made some good points. Let me restate the argument: Women can create the occasion for the sin of pornography use by denying their husbands marital intimacy. It is sinful for women to deprive their husbands of intimacy, a definite marital obligation. Women offend God when they don’t treat their husbands as the physical beings they are. Many people balk or laugh at that idea because it is so unfamiliar to them, yet it’s true. Pornography use is also sinful and the man who uses it is culpable. He offends God, his wife, and his children. Abstinence won’t harm him; pornography will. Pornography has damaged countless marriages. The makers and purveyors, the judges who have allowed it, are criminals, who have created a temptation that destroys.
Feminism and the burdens of the careerist life have desensitized some women to the needs of men. Men are generally disinclined to put their feelings into words and to let their wives calmly know something is wrong. Men may also encourage women in exhausting work outside the home, which leaves them with little energy at the end of the day, another serious factor in undermining marital intimacy, something the commenter below does not acknowledge.
I cannot recall whether the reader wanted his name published and I have lost his address, so I will omit it here. He wrote:
Many and various sources are talking about an epidemic of porn and many women, specifically, talk about this as though it has nothing to do with them.
But of course it does — it has everything to do with wives. (more…)