Boys Hate School

OUR culture is producing highly motivated girls and boys who are alienated from school and achievement. Boys have always rebelled against the dull routines of school, but the malaise we see today is more intense and pervasive, a product of unprecedented focus on boosting the morale of girls and of a world in which everything traditionally expected of men and women has undergone radical change. Heroism has been demonized. Boys understandably find it all boring. On some unconscious level, they know school is not about reality. Electronic games also consume much of their energy and motivation.
Gallons and gallons of ink have been spilled already on this subject. In his book, Boys Adrift, Leonard Sax, whom I have written about before, does a good job of describing the problem:
The hostility I’m seeing toward school among so many boys—no longer confined to black and Latino boys in low-income neighborhoods, but now including white and Asian boys in affluent suburbs—is also new. If you’re my age, or older, you can remember forty years ago when the Beach Boys had a major hit with their song “Be True to Your School”: “Be true to your school . . . just like you would to your girl.” That song describes a boy who is proud to wear a sweater emblazoned with the school’s initials, a boy who insists that allegiance to one’s school should be on a par with the enthusiasm a boy has for his girlfriend. There is no trace of irony in the song. If you’re my age or older, you remember Sam Cooke singing “Don’t know much about history . . . but maybe by being an A-student, baby / I could win your love for me” in his song “Wonderful World.” It’s hard to imagine any popular male vocalist singing such a line today, except as a joke. Can you imagine Akon or 50 Cent or Snoop Dogg or even Taylor Hicks singing, without irony and in all seriousness, about wanting to earn an A at school to impress a girl? I can’t. (more…)




